the greatest parental code is like when you spell things to each other you know and uh I'm going to go get some c h c o l a t e yeah so he's starting to spell now so we can't do that because he'll be the other day we were like talking about dinner and Jenny was like should we get p n r and Xander's like Panera and I'm like no it's over like we're going to have to just learn another language or something because yeah I was going to say like maybe I was like and someone said like they think parents legitimately just invented Pig Latin so they could talk in front of their kids like that's the whole origin of pig latin so so parents could talk in front of their kids so Xander's very um practical though so he would he would he would just say d are you joking